My own words have been coming back to me. Earlier this week I wrote about creating memories worth repeating in regards to my children. My basic premise was that things don’t create memories, but relationships or experiences do.
As my own words echoed in my head, it got me thinking about the memories that have been created that are worth repeating with my husband. What instantly comes to mind is the Christmas that our family didn’t have much money for Christmas so The Driver and I decided to not exchange gifts with one another. The decision was made so I checked him off my gift list and moved on to the next gift. Do you know what the stinker did? He showed me up in a huge way! I had absolutely nothing for him and he took the time to write me a long love note. He took the Proverbs 31 passage of scripture, going line by line and wrote of why he believes me to be a Proverbs 31 woman. Can you believe that? I was a mess when I read that and I treasure it as on of my greatest gifts. Again, money is not needed to create memories.
We used to be good about going out on a date every week, but that got costly between dinner and a babysitter so we had to get creative. Most Wednesday nights after we’ve gotten home from AW*NA and the kids are tucked in bed, The Driver and I have dinner together. Yes, it’s a bit late to be eating dinner, but it’s a chance for us to eat in peace and enjoy each other’s company. Sometimes we heat up the leftovers of the kids dinner or sometimes we splurge and The Driver picks up some fast food as a treat for us to enjoy. Of course I’m usually starving by the time we get the chance to eat together, but it’s so worth it! Just now as I was typing this, I took some proactive measures since it’s Wednesday and ate a bowl of cereal. By something as simple as eating a bit later, we’ve created a memory that we both look forward to repeating week after week.
I would be remiss if I did not mention one other thing. You can also create free memories worth repeating with your husband by having sex with him on a regular basis and seeking ways to spice it up while you’re at it. I hope that just the act of having it is not creating a memory because it’s so infrequent for you. What I’m saying, Mama, is to get your booty busy with your Man and make sure he remembers why you are His Woman! Initiate it, come with a good attitude, light some candles, play some music, come up with a new idea or wear a new outfit. Whatever you’ve gotta do to create memories–do it! Remembering that this memory creating opportunity is free ought to keep a smile on your face! I will tell you that from my experience that those times I have put an effort into the times with my Man–he remembers, oh yes, he remembers!
I want to clarify, I am not perfect in this area. The Driver and I have had many a discussion about how I have this ability to set my mind on learning a new skill and then read about it, research it, talk about it, seek advice on it, work on it and then, “WA-LA!” I’ve taught myself a new skill. He often wants to know why I can’t seem to put that much effort into increasing my knowledge and skills into what he likes to do–play in the bedroom! So you see, we don’t have it all worked out perfectly, but we do continue to press on and work at creating memories worth repeating whether it’s in his realm of impressionable memories or mine. What matters is that we keep trying.
I could list off a few more specific memories, but the thing that strikes me the most in relation to creating memories worth repeating with my spouse is that the greatest gift I can give my children is a good marriage with their dad. It’s all interwined. I create memories with my husband and in turn it blesses my children. Some memories happen by chance, but it takes a deliberate effort on my part (and The Driver) to create opportunities for those memories to happen. Dear Mama, make sure that you are going beyond just creating memories with your children. Make the effort to create them with your Man too.
I like the part about your booty!